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Another Coffee from the May 1991 Deep Cove Crier

Is Frank Sinatra’s ‘I Did It My Way’ Your Theme Song As Well??

The only thing worse than not getting your own way is actually getting it!  Being both successful and miserable is one of life’s worst curses. You may remember the famous song "I Did It My Way". There is something inside all of us that wants to do things our own way, that doesn’t like to be controlled by others. But getting my own way too often usually means winning the battle but losing the war, winning the argument but losing the intimacy, winning the contract but losing the friendship. It is legendary how many good business friendships have been sacrificed on the altar of corporate success.

All of us need close friendships, but too often our task orientation leaves us feeling detached. All of us, if married, need intimacy and vulnerability in our marriages, but our desire to "have our own space" can leave us feeling very empty and alone. All of us, if parents, want joyful, open relationships with our children, but our fear to "loosen the reins a bit" when appropriate can often drive them far away. All of us want closeness and caring in our relationships, but our need to do it our way so often leaves us in the H.A.L.T. position (H.A.L.T. - hungry, angry, lonely or tired). At such times, we are particularly vulnerable to discouragement, to wondering what it’s all about. We may be saying to ourselves, "why beat myself to be successful and accomplish all these objectives if there is no one to share it with at a really intimate, caring level?" At such a point we realize in the words of the old 1960’s song that "Freedom Is Just Another Word For Nothing Left to Lose."

What is it about our modern culture that encourages us to drive ourselves until we are exhausted and burnt out?  How can we say ‘Halt’ to the endless pressure of our frantic world?  Click to find out how….

Refill?


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